Sex is good; everyone knows it, everyone wants it, and Hollywood makes a ton of money off of it.
According to ReCAPP (Recourse Center of Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention) 47% of U.S. high school students had reported having sexual intercourse in the year 2013.
People, including young teens, promote the idea of having premarital sex and even celebrate it when they do, but when someone dares to say “I am waiting until marriage,” the reaction turns into discomfort and judgment.
As a society we praise those who have lost their v-card at 16 but ostracized those who wait until “I do.” This is due to the social stigma that waiting until you get married is unnatural and “waiting until marriage” is not truly relevant.
While the idea of waiting to have sex until married is centuries old I would argue that there is a relevancy to this “ancient” tradition. I also would argue that even though sex is a natural part of our human existence the act itself is being used in very unnatural ways.
Sex is an instinct in the same way that eating and sleeping are, but everything instinctual has a purpose.
When you feel hungry it is usually your body telling you it desires nutrients. When you feel sleepy it is usually your body telling you it desires rest to gain energy. When you feel aroused it is usually your body telling you it desires to procreate and make offspring.
Another instinctual aspect of human nature is raising a child with a dual-parent.
According to The Bump, Paul Amato, Professor of Family Sociology and Demography at Pennsylvania State University, states “that children who grow up with both biological parents in the same household are less likely to experience a variety of cognitive, emotional and social problems.”
The reason this is important is because it is good to understand why there is marriage and why sex is needed in the first place.
Sex is a means of creating strong offspring which is done best in a parental partnership. This would shed a light on why a long time ago, when societies moved from hunters and gathers to a more urban form of survival, marriage was established for a functioning society.
If the statistic from ReCAPP is accurate then the reality is that 47% of our traditional undergraduate campus community had sexual intercourse while in high school. This is a difficult conversation to have, it is taboo for us as a Christian community.
We have to be true to ourselves. That may mean being honest. That may mean being vulnerable. That may mean we have to ask ourselves hard questions.
The truth is choosing to wait, or wait again, is courageous and should be celebrated.
Be brave. Be you. Be patient.